There is only on pattern, and it is the one God teaches us to express love

As the Father loved Me, I also have loved you; abide in My love. John 15:9
Love is a beautiful feeling, which is expressed in multiple ways, whether by a gesture, a word, a detail and many more, which would be endless, for each one expresses it differently.
Yet true love is the one that is born from the heart of God, which is shown by way of obedience. He asks for neither gifts nor words, but facts; for the one who loves as God loves, he knows he has to walk in the principles of his Word. Hence, when we know this love, our relationship with God becomes a greater one, since we stop doing things to keep up appearances, but only those that make Him feel well and pleased.
If we are doing things the right way, but not as He tells us to, let us make the changes. Otherwise, all demonstration of love from us to God and others shall be in vain, for there is only on pattern, and it is the one God teaches us to express love: obedience.